Thanks guys. This is a good conversation. I'd try to make myself more clear, but I can't really, without going into things that I'd rather not share in a public forum. As a children's book writer who visits area schools, I'm trying really hard not to "step" in something.
I realize I can't please everyone, but I was just wondering if there was some consensus, some line...so my stories would be accessible to children whose parents might object to a lot of young fantasy currently out there.
Based on the responses here and on personal experience, I guess there is no "one" answer. But several of you have pointed out areas I wouldn't have thought of. And most importantly you have shown me the reasoning behind why you feel the way you do.
I'm really not trying to pick on anyone or single anyone out, so if anyone does have strong feelings about magic in stories..I'd love to hear from you. I'm not judgemental, just curious, and trying to understand the viewpoints of others.
There is obviously a strong Christian influence in my sons' school. One son came home with a mother's day project covered in stickers --- crosses, fish, and other Christian symbols. Christian books are read and Christian music played in the classroom. Teachers share Christian testimony. This is a public school, although, I've heard other schools in the district aren't this way. But then it's very common for me to walk into a retail store and hear Christian music playing in the background. Our city newspaper includes a daily prayer on the front page.
I'm writing all this very tenatively in fear of being misunderstood. And no, I'm not complaining about the school, they treat my children well, but it's been an adjustment.
I'm not writing for the Christian market, I'm writing for the mainstream market, but I'd like to write secular fantasy that is acceptable to the more conservative Christian. I do not want to alienate that part of the population...so I was wondering if there were any rules.
But looks like there ain't no rules.

And I probably made NO sense.

Allison, great suggestions about checking the guidelines.