Joe, you can post on the SCBWI Only conference boards to connect with people. You can private message other SCBWI members through SCBWI's main site. You can contact the conference leaders to find out who is attending the conference. There are boards in the SCBWI Only area (green boards) that allow you to connect with other conference attendees. SCBWI regional conference information can be found on SCBWI's main site.
This is just a tiny part of SCBWI's site - a message board where writers and illustrators share craft and other information with each other.
THIS part of the message board where you are posting these messages is open to everyone on the internet. If you started getting XXX-rated pornographic emails and floods of gross spam in your In Box, like many of us on this board did before we put these restrictions in place, I don't think you would feel so irritated about these restrictions. And they don't protect just a few people on this board, they protect EVERYONE on this board - including you.
If this was, indeed, your last post here, you will be missing out on a lot of great opportunities to meet wonderful people and learn much. That's too bad, but it is, of course, your choice. I'm very sorry you feel this way. We would have enjoyed getting to know you better.