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Title: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: crookedbook on September 20, 2013, 06:04 AM
As the mother of two little girls I am clueless about rough housing - what exactly do little boys do to act "macho" or tough? And what are some stereotypical "boy" activities? I know, I know - stereotypes are evil. But I gotta start somewhere....

catching bugs
playing in mud
ninja kicks
???

Thank you!!!


 :thankyou
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: RaeE on September 20, 2013, 06:19 AM
Yes, yes, and yes. I have two boys (8 and 7), and one is not a "stereotypical" boy who loves ninja kicks and roughhousing. I kinda thought it was a reflection of our well-planned parenting.  :haha My other would be the hero of medieval times. (If we ever need someone to defend the honor of the house, he's our guy.) It's interesting to watch him play with friends on the playground--they have elaborate games involving fighting (mostly based on Lego Ninjago), but they're very careful to not hurt anyone. He loves climbing around in the woods and exploring, throwing the biggest things he can lift, jumping as far as he can, running as fast as he can... doing anything BIGGER than everyone else.

He also loves drawing and cuddling and snuggling with his stuffed animals and reading... ::-)
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: Jean Reidy on September 20, 2013, 06:42 AM
Depending on the age - lots of stuff with couch cushions like jumping, building forts - yeah forts are huge - and general pile ons.
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: JennaWren on September 20, 2013, 06:54 AM
Oh, boy. I have a son (10) who is pretty stereotypical in this way. Climbing, jumping, building, ninja-ing, light saber-ing, sports, wrestling -- anyone and anything. When my youngest was born, DS was sad it was a girl. So he's turned her into a little brother, and now, at 7, she's usually the one to participate in the wrestling, pig-piling, acrobatics, death-defying feats of unparalleled awesome. She's also getting pretty good at football.

Oh, when he was little, there was a lot of car stuff -- racing, zooming them around the house. (My parents give him a Hess truck every Christmas so it usually involves those.) Remote control cars too, if he has one that hasn't been broken yet. Trains -- Geo Trax and also the wooden Thomas ones.

Climbing trees (or anything he can) is also popular.

Anything that involves throwing, catching, hitting or kicking a ball of any kind. Running!

At night he has a zillion stuffed animals that have to be arranged just-so for bedtime cuddles. And when it's the right book, reading obsessively.
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: Maryann L on September 20, 2013, 09:24 AM
Roughhousing is particularly boy-to-boy contact. Girls will hold hands, but boys will NOT do this. Instead, they will: tumble/wrestle, have pillow fights, "bump" each other (cushions are nice, but hands crossed over the chest if no cushion is available!) Games involving more than three boys may develop into "stacking and whacking," my personal term for trying to knock someone off the shoulders of another person.
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: Artemesia on September 20, 2013, 09:33 AM
My two little ones (4&6) are both ninjas, superheros, pirates, power rangers and zombies. They also do what they call "sissy fight" and I have no idea where they got this, but they yell sissy fight! and then turn their heads away and have a hand slap fight. 
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: crookedbook on September 20, 2013, 11:09 AM
LOL - these are great - thank you!

On a related note, WHEN do little boys get into acting macho? What age do they care about looking tough? ("Mom don't hug me in front of my friends?" kinda thing)
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: RaeE on September 20, 2013, 11:20 AM
Depends on the boy, I think. Hugs and kisses in public still don't phase my 8yo (and he still wants to hold hands in stores, etc), but his brother started shrugging off public hugs when he was 4. *sigh*
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: Artemesia on September 20, 2013, 11:23 AM
Well, I think it really starts when they enter a social setting. My oldest said pink was his favorite color until he started kindergarten and the other boys told him it was a "girl color." Then he didn't like pink anymore. But now that he's 14 it's cool for boys to like pink and he likes it again. It's like a form of rebellion or something because traditionally boys are not supposed to like pink, I dunno. Boys are weird. lol He also has some friends that are called "Bronies". These are teenage boys that are really into My Little Ponies.

*crossposted with Rae*

My guys are still fine with hugs and kisses too.
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: jenklein on September 20, 2013, 11:42 AM
This isn't about wanting to appear macho, but to the original question -- one thing that I see with my two little hoodlums is that they can't NOT touch each other. When they pass each other in the hallway or one walks past the other while sitting down... it's HOW they connect, in a way. They're like puppies except instead of teeth, they're throwing an elbow or sticking out a foot or whapping a head. Most of the time, it's not malicious. It's just what they do.
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: bugaboo on September 20, 2013, 01:09 PM
Little boys love sticks.  I don't get it myself, but my son gathers sticks up on walks, uses them as walking sticks, pretends they are stingers, hits them against trees...they just really like sticks.  To "act" macho, he will use his "macho" voice (talk deep.  It's funny--hes almost 5).  He does this a lot when doing something with toy tools, carrying my bags for me (or anything else that is heavy.  He thinks lifting heavy things is very macho), or playing superheros.  On a side note, he also uses his "macho" voice when he plays with a toy vacuum.  He only ever sees daddy vacuum, so he seems to believe that vacuuming is a very macho activity.lol  Also Interesting, his little sister hits and physically roughhouses much more than he ever has. 
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: Amy S on October 19, 2013, 10:20 AM
my boys are older than this now, but my memory of this time is that for one, building was for building sake. for the otehr, you built in order to knock it down -- make the really loud and cool noise that comes with many blocks hitting the floor. You also had to be jumping up on walls (he still does this), and fallen trees. It just isn't an option to stay walking on the path. I see this downstairs right now. One doesn't sit on the couch, you stand on it and kind of dance. Constant motion.

Disclaimer that I while I've been around a lot of girls, none of them are mine.

Oh, my boys don't talk to each other or me about feelings. They might tell me what happened at school -- news -- but not the effects on them or their friends. The girls I drive in car pools chatter about feelings all the time.


enjoy the boy energy!
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: Vijaya on October 19, 2013, 01:08 PM
Here's an interesting article about it: http://spectator.org/archives/2013/10/18/boyhood-is-not-a-mental-illnes 

Vijaya
Title: Re: Little Boys Rough Housing?
Post by: thunderingelephants on October 20, 2013, 05:19 AM
This is probably useless, but John's often told me that as a child he would go down the stream and throw rocks at the fish and take pleasure in watching the dead fish rise to the surface and see them float off.

When I looked after three boys, one of them had a fascination with Lego (I was actually surprised at that one for some reason). One younger used to come in and smash his brother's colossal constructions to smitherines.

In the end, older brother grew out of getting stressed and saw it as a challenge to start building again. Quite fun for me too, I have to admit.