@thunderingelephants, I certainly don’t see anything wrong with young people making up words and phrases to suit their needs…I think it’s creative. All languages derive and exist from a need to communicate, not for people to condescend. Sadly, some individuals are never taught how to speak proper English. Some of this goes back to how certain ethnic groups were introduced to western society, i.e. slaves, who were not taught to speak proper English, and at the same time forbidden to speak their own native tongues. And considering that some of this is only a handful of generations back, the ramifications are still evident today in a lot of impoverished societies. With that said, who says language has boundaries? I am not arguing that when in Rome, don’t speak Italian, but why, if you’re in the privacy of your own home, can a person not speak the way they want and not be judged for it? I certainly know how to speak proper English, in fact, I have written a dissertation full of proper English. But at times, when I am with my family and friends, I might be known to throw a few of these phrases around. If I can get my point across and be understood, why the judgment?
@Jaina, I’ve never heard it used as an oxymoron before. When I use it, it’s to say that a person is an all-around mess. Adding “hot” to the mess just compounds how bad a mess someone is. I think a good example is how doggy poop is a hot mess, literally. lol